Humiliation

offensive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behavior, an abuse or misuse of power through means intended to undermine, humiliate or injure the recipient. This may be an individual against individual or it may involve groups of people, its how bullying was defined in one of these documents of my senior brothers.

Ah! I know how it feels to be victim because I myself had been one. I was a new student in a new school and when I was trying to adjust myself one of the student started to make my times hard and the problem was I could not react or anything. It was so suffocating. Really I used to have nightmares. I tried my best to walk with friends as much as possible. However I used to fear what if I meet him when I am returning home? or while I am on my way to school?


I could not even complain my teachers or parents. How could I go and say(I thought it would be very embarrassing to myself) that one of my classmate catches my hand and his mates clap around encouraging him? or that I find letters in my bag? or that he waves his hands in front of my eyes without keeping an inch distance? or his mates keeps giggling looking at my direction? give me nick names? I was offended, I felt sorry for my self, scared of his presence and prayed that something would happen and he would change school or I could change my school.


Obviously this all was affecting my studies, till I had enough courage to complain one day. He and one of his company got slapped in an assembly and I will always be happy for that day.

Today, I can smile and narrate but I can't forget how it felt right then. My teacher did that for me and then after that, I learned to help myself. Probably it was not that he or his friends were daring may be I was too coward? So friends out there if some one or even group is bullying, tell them you are not happy, don't learn their way but think of some right actions.

Bullying doesn't mean that it should be obvious to others, like my bench mate saw me flushing or maybe they didn't when that pest blocked my way or some thing but maybe they never understood how it was eating me inside, or your co workers try to tie your tie in the right way or help with your shawl, or even does nothing but you notice him that she or he frequently reserves chair opposite to yours and catches your eye or holds dirty kind of books, or may be just keeps staring and you feel its offending.

If you think you are being humiliated ............